Why Zendaya ROCKING and DEFENDING her LOCS is EPIC

More and more recently, women in show biz as well as everyday women have been embracing their natural hair texture. Going for more natural looking styles for me has been very empowering and challenging at the same time.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been stopped on the street by admirers, white and black, men and women who loved the various styles I’ve worn. It’s very encouraging. Then there are times when people aren’t as nice, those who don’t understand why natural hair is a big thing to women of color, simply because it doesn’t fit their standard of beauty. Luckily, those people are few and far in between but it still leaves a sting.

Just recently, Zendaya (of Disney channel fame) was criticized for wearing locs to the Oscars. This couldn’t have occurred at a more appropriate time, with the whole #OscarsSoWhite boycott. She released a statement via her instagram account, shutting the haters all the way down. What I love about her statement is, not only did she shut the haters down, she did so in an intelligent manor! Just because someone wears their hair in a certain style does not make them incompetent or uneducated. You go Zendaya! BTW, she looks absolutely gorgeous ❤

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This bullying of natural hair or hair in general needs to stop! Hair is hair! What you choose to do to your hair is your business. Do what works for you and keep it cute, honey!

What are your thoughts on this? Have you been criticized for wearing more natural looking styles? Let’s start the conversation!

#HairIsHair

The College Grad

*Photos from Good Morning America https://m.facebook.com/GoodMorningAmerica?ref=bookmark

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Is that your hair? How do you do that? Can I touch it?

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These are questions that I and weave wearers like myself are asked on the daily. When these questions arise, I try to handle each query with style and grace.  Just the other day a woman asked me, “Is that your hair?” I replied with a sassy smile as if to say, Wouldn’t you like to know? But after about 50/ eleven times, it tends to get rather annoying.

Now, I understand not everyone wears a weave, so I try to have patience when I am asked a question. One cannot assume that everyone has had the same exposure to certain things as others have. But my hair does not affect my work performance in any way, shape or form, nor does it define who I am!

Just as an artist produces a masterpiece, the same can be said for hair. The hair is the canvas and the fingers and styling tools are the paintbrush. Weave is a form of expression and individuality. Not everyone that wears a weave is bald headed or ashamed of their natural hair. Some like the versatility that weave provides. As the saying goes, to each his own.

I consider myself to be semi natural. And what I mean by that is NO to perms, YES to weaves, minimal heat. That’s what works for ME! Whether your hair is natural, semi or weaved up, you should not feel ashamed. You are the one that has to wear it so do you boo-boo! Wear it well!

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I’ve come up with a number of Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ’S) on this subject

1. Is that your hair?

It shouldn’t matter. Whether it’s grown from my own scalp or purchased from the beauty supply, it is my hair, (.) point __

2. How do you do that??

It depends on the style one is referring to. A weave can be done several ways. The most common are sewn or glued in. The natural or real hair can be braided down while the weave is either sown on the braids with needle and thread or glued on the braids or stocking cap. It all comes down to preference.

3. Can I touch it???

One of the biggest unwritten rules is NEVER, EVER touch a black woman’s hair unless you want to pull back a nub!

First of all, I am not an animal so don’t touch my hair. But I would rather someone ask for permission rather than to touch it out of nowhere.

The truth is, black women spend a lot of time and money perfecting their styles, even sleeping in uncomfortable positions to preserve it. Would you like it if someone messes up a room you just fixed? No. So there’s your answer but really it’s up to the individual.

That is all for now but feel free to leave your questions/comments below and I’ll be sure to respond!

Later Dolls!

The College Graduate ❤

 

 

 

 

 

Hair, Hair, Who Cares?

When I heard some of the ignorant comments made towards 16 year old Gabby Douglas, who recently won a gold medal in gymnastics for her country, I just had to react. After all she has accomplished, the only topic of importance was none other than, her hair. While other 16 year olds are starring on MTV’s 16 and Pregnant with several appearances on The Maury Show, this young girl is reaching her dreams and having her door knocked down by some of the top schools in the country. Have we as a society become that shallow?

Think about it. When thirty something year old, self-proclaimed Barbie Nicki Minaj prances around on stage in blonde, pink and multi-colored wigs, we all sing along to the raunchy and ridiculous lyrics. No one finds a flaw in this. But when this young girl, who has her head on straight, has traveled to places that you and I only dream of and competes in the Olympics in front of millions, someone just had to throw in a low blow. How tacky!

First of all, I am no expert in gymnastics, but common sense, which I find as not so common as we think, would tell you that in order to deliver and maneuver with such elegance as she did, hair flowing everywhere might only be a distraction. So, how did people expect her to look?

Whether you’re doing good or bad, people are always going to find fault. I guess if they’re not talking, you’re not relevant. So I say, Go Gabby, Go! People need to stop hating.

I can personally attest to some of the struggles it takes in being a woman, especially one of color. Feel free to share your thoughts or similar stories.

Sincerely,

The College Grad